Cultivating self and others awareness, guide new perspectives to help you move past struggles, feeling stuck and overwhelmed. I like to call what we’ll work together on, Self Leadership. Your efforts in the coaching sessions and post sessions will facilitate your growth through new thoughts, feelings and behaviours. You will be empowered to become more of your authentic self, being better able to recognize your adaptability and resilience through your ability for self-leadership.
My practice focuses on working collaboratively with clients to increase capacity for:
Self Leadership – Internal
Collaborative Leadership – external
Engaged Empathy (3 types: Affective, Cognitive, and Compassion)
Mind & Body Well-being – Mindfulness, Gratitude, Holistic Rest
Psychological Safety for deepened truth to arise
I offer two types of Coaching: Pure Coaching and Coach-Approach Mentoring.
Holistic (Pure Form) Coaching
Ideal when the Client has some awareness and self-leadership skills developed and can be guided in the thought process to discover new insights and gain awareness in perspective and mind & body responses (mental, physical and emotional). The sessions are non-directive, in that I do not give advice or do the important thinking for you. I work hard to help you arrive at the discoveries on your own, empowering you with ownership of your own learning and growth.
This is beneficial for situations where the client doesn’t know where to begin, “one can’t possibly know what one doesn’t know until you discovered it what that is. Then you can shift from not knowing to knowing and doing something about it.” Once you begin your journey with self leadership in awareness of thought, emotions and behaviour, you’re primed for coaching sessions, where you get to the work, live learning.
An example I have to share relating to discovering what I didn’t know and couldn’t possibly have discovered without the use of self-leadership coaching:
I grew up with childhood abuse, both physical and psychological, which I didn’t know until in my 40’s was considered complex trauma and with that meant my struggles and feeling stuck despite being intelligent and well-rounded was rooted in having experienced what is known as complex trauma and thus suffered from complex PTSD. I learned that PTSD is common in everyone, in experiences of trauma that isn’t resolved or released from our mind/body, it affects us moving forward. It teaches us things, whether helpful or not due to our fight, flight, freeze responses. This conditioning affects how to see, think and do, how we relate or make sense of situations, how we process, and how we take or don’t take action, our behaviours. I tried counselling for what I considered personal subjects and career coaches for career/professional work-related. They only sort of worked for me, but couldn’t help with my struggles with feeling that there must be more to the disconnect I still felt. I would periodically feel brain fog and lack of focus, despite knowing what I needed to work on. I was faced with this “knowing-doing gap” or resistance. Some called what I suffered from self-sabotage, which I didn’t agree with the negative and powerless connotation it implies. In my journey of learning, I came across new perspectives and models of looking at how trauma affects us. With the new awareness of how trauma is stored in our bodies and how they affect us holistically, I was able to have more clarity and feel more empowered to help myself. Through learning new methodologies and the use of new tools, I was able to discover that unresolved trauma experience reconditions us and can be triggered by situation or by people and we have higher functioning vigilance and may have developed fast reactions to further protect ourselves. The parts of us that were hurt or scared in the past react fast, with good reason, but our conscious selves may be clueless as to these happening and why. In my case, I discovered through a form of self-leadership coaching that the brain fog and inability to focus was specific to when I wanted to work on projects for myself only, and it was due to past traumas in childhood that conditioned that young part of me to believe that it wasn’t ok for me to put myself out there, I was at risk for getting in trouble, and be told by the parent that I wasn’t good enough. A part of myself was protecting me, thus giving me brain fog and no focus. How clever, but counterproductive to my current age and situation. The new awareness was to give more focus to mind and body well-being to cultivate a better sense of psychological safety within myself, to let the harmed parts of myself understand that I’m no longer that young self-being mistreated. I learned to self-lead myself with a coach approach, asking questions to find the root truth, what I felt and needed, then work to give that to myself. This gave me a new understanding of self-love and compassion, something that always felt a little disconnected until now.